31 Aug One for the Boy’s – 10 Tips on how your man can help you through menopause
Women going through menopause often feel as though they are alone in this. As their husbands /boyfriend’s /lovers you may be wondering if there is anything, you can do to help.
Here are 10 tips on how you could help your woman through menopause:
- Help her to cool down! Let her have a say in the room temperature at home. Women during this period of their lives often have difficulty with warm or stuffy rooms. Rather than have her deal with her hot flashes in a warm location, let her set the temperature of the thermostat to where it is more comfortable for her. Especially at night, she needs a cool room to sleep in.
- Remember that she might have problems with intercourse. You may need to be more patient with your wife as she goes through menopause. She might be experiencing a decrease in libido so she won’t want to have sex as much and she may have vaginal dryness that can make intercourse painful. Organic coconut oil works wonders or
buya water-based lubricant for sex so that she can enjoy it, too. Or take her on a tantra course or retreat. I am a big fan of Tantra! This is all about re-connecting and deepening your relationship on all levels.
- Support good nutritional habits. Women in menopause often need to improve their nutrition as some foods can help, while others can harm, the woman undergoing menopause. She will need to eat more sources of vitamin D and calcium to keep her bone strength up and should follow a healthy diet, so as not to gain weight during menopause. You can help her by eating healthy right along with her so she isn’t tempted to fall off the wagon and eat the wrong things. You coming home with a pizza and a six-pack, whilst she has been struggling to keep the weight off, might not be the best idea. We want our men to be happy too of course and good food (not processed or out of a packet) boosts our energy and naturally makes you and her happier.
- Have the kids left already or are still there? Women might go through “empty nest” syndrome along with menopause. You can help her by having a chat about how life changes now the kids have gone or need you less. How about rekindling a hobby you always wanted to try together? Car racing, sailing, hiking, biking are a few that some of my clients have taken up since menopause (I am serious!). And how can you change the house now that you have more space or would you like to downsize to have more time for each other? Decluttering the house together, installing your own wellness area or a sauna maybe?
- Encourage her to exercise. Exercise is vital for the woman undergoing menopause. Much of the exercise should be aerobic exercises that help prevent heart disease. She may also wish to do some strength training to build up her bones and muscles. You can help her by partaking in these activities yourself so that you can both have good exercise habits and may both lose a little weight in the process. Exercise not only prevents obesity, but it decreases the incidence of heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure, which are things you should be looking out for in your own body. Couples have reported that when they “sweat it up together” their sex life all of a sudden gets a boost too.
- Recognize that she will have mood swings (Sorry boy’s!🙈) You need to know that women in menopause often have widely fluctuating moods that will make you wonder what the heck is going on. If you want to help her, don’t make a big thing out of the mood swings and just be supportive to her in whatever mood she has. Mood swings can put a damper on a relationship but, if you remain calm and solid as a rock during her crises, you can help her try to find her calm and be her Hero once again. Some women go through depression in menopause and you need to be sensitive to these symptoms. Get her help with things are bleak, she needs her friends, a good GP, naturopath and a health coach to get her through.
- Decrease the amount of stress in your lives. Stress can make menopausal symptoms worse, particularly those related to mood and depression. You can together find ways to reduce the stress in your lives so that you can enjoy these years without intolerable menopausal symptoms. Take a yoga class with her or practice meditation with her if this seems to help decrease your stress levels.
- Let her choose the bed clothing. If you want to help your spouse be happy at night, let her select the bedding you put on the bed. While you may be more comfortable with a down comforter, she may see that as exacerbating her hot flashes and night sweats. You can have an extra blanket on your side of the bed if you get cold but just know that she will likely not be hot and will want to sleep with just a sheet or a light blanket. You might even decide that two doonas are the way to go. Or get a cooling gel underlay for her bed, she will love it when you are thoughtful. Also, a little fan for her purse will go a long way.
- Encourage her to find natural solutions for all her symptoms, there are so many pieces to this menopausal puzzle and she needs your rational mind to help her through. Start researching things that will help her like Maca and DIM and Black Cohosh 😊. She will thank you for it and be blown away if you know what she is talking about. Believe me!
- Tell your woman she’s beautiful. Women in menopause often suffer from self-image problems as they begin to be more wrinkled and can gain some weight during this time. Remind her that she still looks good so that she won’t feel that she is getting older and is no longer desirable to you.
I hope this helped you a little bit, if you have any questions, I am happy to help you in any way I can. Menopause can be a positive experience for both of you. It’s time to figure out how you want to spend the next phase of your life together. Dream big! You can make this happen – Now is YOUR time together.
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